Marriage: A topic that a lot of you will probably relate to.

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Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) mentioned:

  • “A Woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion and character. So marry the one who is best in the religion and character, and prosper.” (Hadith: Bukhari and Muslim)

Marriage: A topic that a lot of you will probably relate to. In my opinion, the majority of today’s society is very liberal with regards to how they go about marriage, something that I don’t agree with. I believe there is nothing wrong in choosing your own partner, but it is how you go about it that matters. It will be interesting to hear your views?

I don’t believe in pre-marital relationship and dating. Islam has given me the freedom to choose my own partner. My Parents have given me the freedom to choose my own partner. But, there are boundaries and it is up to the individual with regards to how one goes about it. I don’t agree with pre-marital relationships due to my beliefs, morals, and values. My Faith is a big part of my life, Alhamdulillah. Everyone is different. How you go about it is up to you as an individual and what values you hold.

Everywhere you go, you see so many Muslims of today’s society in pre-marital relationships. They seem to feel so proud that they have a boyfriend/ girlfriend. They are so involved in the western culture and I wonder if some of them have any self-respect, and most of all whether their priority is marriage. You even see some individuals date one person and then if that doesn’t work out; they date another and so on. Surely, if the priority is marriage then why would one go about dating, going on holiday together before marriage, and even living together before marriage? In my opinion these individuals choose to abuse the freedom. Islam has given freedom of choice to those who want to get married. The mutual choice of the would-be-spouses is given the highest consideration: “do not prevent them from marrying their chosen husband/wife when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner.” (Quran, 2:232)

The intention and decision to get married doesn’t just come out of nowhere for anyone. It is an informed and considered decision. A decision which I believe can be informed without the need of liberal elements. When you have a choice then I believe it’s important to tell your Parents. In my opinion, the process of marriage is a healthy balance between freedom of choice of the would-be-spouses and consideration of the opinions and the consent of the Parents. I believe compatibility between the would-be-spouses is very important, but also compatibility between the two families of those individuals is just as important. I have so much respect for guys who go about marriage (Rishteh) proposals the proper way.  “Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity.” (Quran, 24:26)

Reminder: Your Character and Piety comes from within your Heart and makes you who you are, and I strongly believe it is your biggest strength in Deen and Dunya.